How to help your child become braver
Do you have a little one at home who wants to but doesn't always dare? After a few years at preschool
most children reach an age where they want to be more daring in relation to friends,
social interactions and activities. But how should we as parents support them in their courage
in the best possible way?
Many children around 4-5 years old may feel insecure in new situations, when playing with friends or
to try something new - while being ready for it! As a parent, you can
help your child develop courage and self-confidence through small, safe steps. We have collected
some concrete tips that you can take with you when you support your child to dare more!
Encourage small challenges
Let the child face new situations at their own pace, but encourage small steps outside
the safety zone. If your child is shy in the playground, you can start by playing together
and then gradually let the child approach other children.
Acknowledge feelings and show understanding
It is normal to feel insecure sometimes. Instead of saying "you don't have to be afraid",
you can say "I know it's a bit scary, but I'm here to support you". By
acknowledge the feelings, you show that it is okay to be nervous.
Be a role model
Children learn a lot by watching their parents. Show them yourself how you deal with new or
challenging situations with a positive attitude. If you show that it is okay to fail
and try again, your child learns that courage is about daring even when it feels difficult.
Practicing social situations through play
If your child is unsure about talking to new friends, you can practice by
Role play at home. Play "meet a new friend" and let your child try saying hello and asking about them
can join in the fun. Practicing in a safe environment can make it easier in real life.
Praise the effort, not just the result
Focus on praising your child for daring to try rather than the actual
the achievement. For example, say: "I saw that you dared to go up to the new friend, what
brave of you!". This helps the child to feel proud of their courage regardless of the outcome.
Creating a secure foundation
A child who feels safe at home is more confident in the world. A stable everyday life with love
and support gives the child a stronger foundation to build their courage on.
By supporting your child in the right way, you can help him or her become more confident and dare to
more in everyday life. With patience, encouragement and small steps, courage can grow naturally!
